# RANDOM THOUGHTS - 1 (IDENTIFICATION)

By Vani P Nair -


I was in the courtyard at about 12:45 at night over the phone talking with my friend after a particularly satisfying day, the details of which are irrelevant to what I am going to write about. At that point of time, I was inadvertently making an attempt to identify with an image of a person I was trying to construct for myself, since a lack of routine and productive engagements with people had left me feeling confused about who I was. The conversation veered towards me trying to find out what kind of people I tend to attract for friends and what that says about me. The listener caught the drift of where I was going and promptly stopped me while pointing out the problem with my attempt. The motivations behind why we keep company is often dictated by our immediate needs, circumstances and exigencies, among other things, which mostly have nothing much to do with the person we are. Having said that, the real problem that was pointed out was with the very process of trying to define oneself with respect to others. It should always be pointed at us since we ourselves should be the anchor of our identity. It should be something that we own with conviction and confidence. I was reminded of the importance of being fruitful and productive in life since the sense of satisfaction it affords can bring us closer to ourselves. 

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